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The Importance of Parents (and Siblings) Being in Therapy, Too
To me, one member of the household in therapy, is like only filling one car tire with air… All tires must be full and the axis aligned for the car to run smoothly. This is not just limited to parents, but includes siblings, too.
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Redefining Success: Prioritizing Mental Health in Tumultuous Times
A common concern brought to light in therapy is the tendency for clients to be too hard on themselves, to be too rigid with their expectations, or to fall prey to all or nothing thinking. These thoughts might sound like “It’s not good enough”, “This is not how I pictured it”, “If I don’t get an A, then I might as well fail”, or “That person is so good at it, I must be awful”. As a therapist, I often find myself trying to help my clients be kind to themselves rather than bullying themselves into performance. We try to find the line between being self-motivated and self-critical. These common…
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The Key to Good Parenting: Love
There is no one best way to parent. However, there is one necessary ingredient: make sure your child feels loved. Sounds simple, right? Not so much. Loving your child and your child feeling loved are not one and the same. A parent’s love for their child is something so indescribable and deep rooted. Yet, just because a parent feels it, does not mean the feeling is automatically transferred to the child. Note: When we say children, we mean all children – including teens! What Goes Wrong Children and adults do not often speak the same love language. In the words of Dr. Gary Chapman, It’s not enough to love your kids…You have to…